friends!! i’m going on an indefinite hiatus. feel more than free to email, and i’ll catchya later!
3:18 pm • 31 March 2014 • 7 notes
one very big mistake is to think your feelings come from you rather than are happening through you
10:49 pm • 24 March 2014 • 15 notes
“Most people my age—we never called ourselves liberated women. We knew we were not and were never going to be liberated. But we knew what liberation was. It was to feel centered in yourself. To feel you were the agent of your life—you were not sitting by the telephone waiting for something to happen. You were acting. Acting! That became the most important thing. More important than love.”
— The Believer - Interview with Vivian Gornick
10:25 pm • 24 March 2014 • 9 notes
just told my boss this cool “story” about how, as a kid, i was very sure our house was haunted because i could hear something like a voice talking to me every night as i was drifting off to sleep, just saying a word or two right into my ear, but then eventually realized it was my enormous tonsils slapping together as i dozed.
10:19 am • 21 March 2014 • 7 notes
“Within patriarchal culture, the girl who does not feel loved in her family of origin is given another chance to prove her worth when she is encouraged to seek love from males. Schoolgirl crushes, mad obsessions, compulsive longings for male attention and approval indicate that she is rightly pursuing her gendered destiny, on the road to becoming the female who can be nothing without a man. Whether she is heterosexual or homosexual, the extent to which she yearns for patriarchal approval will determine whether she is worthy to be loved. This is the emotional uncertainty that haunts the lives of all females in patriarchal culture. From the start, then, females are confused about the nature of love. Socialized in the false assumption that we will find love in the place where femaleness is deemed unworthy and consistently devalued, we learn early to pretend that love matters more than anything, when in actuality we know that what matters most, even in the wake of feminist movement, is patriarchal approval.”
— Communion by bell hooks (via hellbody)
(Source: maga-capturandomariposas, via haventreadthat)
1:04 am • 21 March 2014 • 3,523 notes
hahaha how am i just now understanding that there’s a stark inverse relationship between the kind of “sensitive” where you get hurt and offended easily and the kind of “sensitive” where you’re particularly attuned to the feelings and motivations of other people.
1:12 pm • 19 March 2014 • 15 notes
"i can’t do this anymore," i said out loud to myself this morning, and "do this" was "wear socks."
10:24 am • 18 March 2014 • 11 notes
“The boat thumped up and down and the sight of his back made me angrier and angrier. There was a certain self-consciousness to in the set of his shoulders: this was, then, a performance, a piece of showing off. He didn’t once glance back at me, for people are their least aware of others when demonstrating their own power over them. I wondered what he would have felt if he’d arrived at our destination to discover that I was no longer there; I imagined him explaining this latest piece of of carelessness to the next woman he met on an airplane. She kept pestering me to go out on the boat, he would say, but it turned out she didn’t know the first thing about sailing. To be perfectly honest, he would say, it was the full disaster; she fell overboard, and now I am very sad.”
Outline by Rachel Cusk
cackllllleddddd at this on the subway ride home tonight.
10:23 pm • 17 March 2014 • 4 notes
anyway it took a lot of self-control to not post nostalgic things about ireland all day (also every day), but this is a picture i took of saint fin barre’s cathedral from my then-boyfriend's apartment in cork.
7:57 pm • 17 March 2014 • 9 notes